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Saturday, March 26, 2011

Jumping for Joy?

I am sitting at my dining room table, it is very quiet and I can hear the crickets singing their melodic chorus outside in my garden. The boys are asleep (for now) and hubby is at the rugby, so I am enveloped in my own wondrous company!

Not that I think I'm wondrous or anything - just that I have always been a person who simply loves to be alone, to do my own thing, to read, ruminate, clean, totter around... Not easy with two little ones under 3 years! So, whenever this happens, which is about once a month, I just relish in my alone-ness. I let it wrap me up like a big fluffy just-washed blanket.

As always, life is busy - I actually wish I had another expression, because that one is getting really old now. Hmpf! But it is what it is! I am pleased to have a new client, and the prospects are very exciting! It does however mean more work at this point - but I am okay with that.

Harlan is growing bigger and more adventurous everyday, but he's still amazingly attached to me. He seems to get severe separation anxiety and isn't very social with other little ones - shame! I think he's actually a little wary of other kids because his big brother (*ahem*) is rather brutal with him.

I am amazed at Harlan's complete focus and determination to understand how things work, how they fit, how they stack, how they fall, how they taste, how they feel, and how they break... He can busy himself for ages on simply screwing the top on and off a bottle.

Malakai, on the other hand, is going through a phase where he wants tons of input. He wants to be shown, he wants to learn and he wants an adult to be by his side. But, he's doing so well as school - he actually doesn't want to come home when I collect him in the afternoon.

The other day when I collected him, he saw me coming and quickly scooted his butt onto the collective blanket where all his friends were sitting. I called 'Malakai!' and he looked the other way! It was so funny!

Otherwise, I am having such a pain of a time disciplining Mr M - still! I just don't know if anything is sinking in... His latest is to run past Harlan and grab some hair and carry on running! Seriously! I just don't know... And he knows he's being naughty.

Also, as Malakai gets older I see both his amazing strengths and I am starting to come face-to-face with his weaknesses. I cannot believe that Malakai can read, that he understands so many signs, that he's so darn clever! He really is an incredibly bright little boy.

On the other side of the coin, we're working on 'jumping' at physio at the moment, and I catch myself thinking how strange it is... we have to teach Malakai how to do something that his cousin (who is much younger than him) can do already with no problem. And he hates it too... Where most kids literally jump for joy. Ai ai ai... I am sometimes reminded that Malakai actually does have special needs - which brings me to the next thing.

The fact that I have to be reminded that my child has special needs is testament in itself of how this journey is just so beautiful, so fulfilling, so amazing. Yes, I sometimes want to cry because my son needs to be taught how to jump, but for the most part he's just my really amazing, very clever and incredibly loving son. I love that we we are blinded by Malakai's ABILITIES!

Finally, I have found a fantastic doctor. In South Africa we only have roughly 5 paediatric neurologists, and so the wait for an appointment can be between 10 - 12 months. Luckily I discovered a newly qualified PaedNeuro and had to only wait one week - ONE WEEK - for an appointment! That is really amazing!

Anyhoo - we had a one hour session and we covered everything from birth to current day. We spoke about Malakai's development including physical, emotional, sensory, behavioural - you name it, we covered it! She was so thorough! Then, I showed her Malakai's sleep video and I held my breath. I think I have just been told so many times that I'm losing the plot that I was afraid she'd think so too.

Thank heavens she agreed that Malakai was not behaving normally in his sleep! Yay! I am not mad!

So, we now have to wait for a sleep study (any tips from other moms would be awesome) and an EEG. Once again though, not many people who do this in South Africa, so I have no idea when we're going to get an appointment. The reason we're doing an EEG is because the doctor suspects (from watching the video) that Malakai might have nocturnal epilepsy. The EEG might confirm this or it might not even pick it up (as often happens, even when epilepsy is present). However, the sleep study should also narrow things down a bit for us!

I cannot express how relieved I am that we are finally taking action and might actually have a diagnosis for Malakai's sleep issues sometime soon. He is so amazing, so gorgeous and so beautiful - imagine what he's going to be like when he's actually getting a good night's sleep? Can anyone spell 'a.n.g.e.l.'?

Anyhoo - that's us for now. Back to some awesome 'me time'!

1 comment:

Fiona said...

I really enjoy following the updates on your two gorgeous boys. That's really good news about the doctor and I hope you find a solution to Malakai's sleep issues soon. Please keep us posted :)